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Christmas is my absolute favorite time of the year. I honestly¬† look so forward to it….not for the gifts or the shopping and all of the hoopla. It’s a magical time of year for friends, family, and thoughtfulness. This picture above is of our Christmas tree. I could sit and stare at it for hours. Each ornament has a story behind it. Sure, it’s cluttered and nothing really matches and there’s really no theme at all but it’s a sum of places we’ve been, gifts from family and friends, pictures, even Christmas cards from our loved ones.

As you can see there are gifts under the tree but mostly just for the children in our family…nieces, nephews, and little cousins. It feels as if the older I get the more commercialized Christmas is. My very dear best friend Rhonnie reminded me of that this morning when we were texting each other. The trees are up in stores before Halloween. It’s insane how much they push the gift purchasing, commercials, black Friday and so forth.

Isn’t Christmas about Jesus being born and spending time with loved ones and cherishing these special moments? Of course, I understand Santa Claus and the children sitting in his lap and so excited for Christmas morning. But, what about reading the true story of Christmas to the children and how we celebrate Jesus being born? What about also telling them the story of Twas The Night Before Christmas? Those are the things I remember most about my childhood Christmas’s. Not the dolls, games, candies, etc that I received. It was the moments of reading those stories with my family or chasing my brother around the tree.

This year my mother and I decided we wouldn’t exchange gifts. She said it’s about our love for each other. She’s also had a rough year financially and is having to support my brother…(long story). Anyway, I decided to take my friend Jean’s advice on a Thank You letter to my Mom. You can check out her blog about a Christmas Letter To Her Dad here on this link¬† https://wordpress.com/read/post/id/19162911/12396

My Thank You letter will be my gift to her. I’m thanking her for being in labor with me for over 24 hours and giving birth to a 9 lb 10 oz baby girl. The struggle was real for my Mom don’t you agree? My Dad wasn’t even there to be by her side. Instead he was shooting pool in some shady bar and then later said he “hit a deer” on the way to the hospital. No proof of that or damage on the car by the way. Typical of my Dad. Anyway, the point is that I want my Mom to have a sentimental Christmas gift straight from my heart. I am so blessed for all she did for me and my brother growing up. I want to thank her for that.

The meaning of Christmas to me is counting my blessings, thankfulness of every single thing in my life. Reaching out to family and friends and telling them how much they mean to me. Christmas cards are my joy each year. I absolutely LOVE receiving them. In fact, today I reached out to each person that sent us a card and then sent them an e-mail thanking them for remembering us and how much it meant to us to hear from them.

To me, that’s what Christmas is about. I don’t want anything for Christmas. I have all I could EVER need. I’ve informed my hubby DO NOT buy me anything whatsoever. I will be livid if he does. Just having him in my life is my gift.

I hope all of you have a very Merry & Bright Christmas. Remember those that you care about and love and let them know what they mean to you.

XO

 

 

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Enough Already

Stretching, yawning, another sip of coffee, sigh…….

Wake up loves! We have shit to blog about and today’s subject is about what we have in our lives.

Bet you thought I was going to go off on an anger rant with the subject being Enough Already, No Loves, it’s not “Enough Already!!”

It’s, Do you have enough money? Enough clothes? Shoes? Enough cars?

When is it enough?

Have you ever noticed that sometimes in our minds we think we don’t have enough? I’m guilty of this as well.

Look around you and take in everything you have. I’m not talking just the materialistic things. Think about this air we’re breathing, roof over our heads, jobs, family, friends, sight, feelings, the list goes on and on.

Often I take for granted everything that I have and want more. Of course, it’s fantastic to have goals and want more in life. I’m not saying that shouldn’t be programmed into your mind. But, we also need to be grateful for every single thing that we do have in our lives.

I live a very ordinary lifestyle. No designer hand bags here. No Jimmy Choo or Steve Madden shoes. My house is a little cottage style house with a $600 monthly mortgage payment. I drive a decent car, payment is affordable, I don’t get manicures often at all. I’m a low maintenance type of chic.

I’ve noticed lately that women and men are caught up having the best of the best from cell phones, Ipads, jewelry, etc.

How about we take in the beauty around us that we’ve worked hard for and be thankful for how far we’ve come and how our lives are pretty fantastic.

Do you have enough in this moment? I bet you do. I know I do.

I ask you this, the next time you just have to have that coach purse or that new Call Of Duty video game, how about you do a random act of kindness for someone?

Use that money to buy someone’s dinner at the restaurant you’re at. You see the guy eating alone three tables over? Tell the waitress to bring you his tab. If that’s too much, the next time you’re at Starbucks pay for the car behind you in the drive thru.

I do this type of thing once a week. I’m not wealthy by all means. I’m a middle class chic that lives a normal lifestyle. I just choose to give back because I look at my life as enough. Sure I have hopes and dreams and goals but I also have a beautiful magnificent life.

By doing things like RAOK it shows that humanity is still among us and that we’re caring individuals and want to give back. It’s not only a wonderful thing to do for someone else but it’s an incredible feeling doing something nice for a complete stranger.

Do we have enough? I believe we all do. Be happy and thankful for what you have while working for what you need.

XO