Ahhhh, Tony is warmhearted, inspirational, true-blue and just a wonderful person. He always has amazing positive quotes to share with us. It’s nice to know if you’re having a shitty day you can just pop over to his blog and find something that uplifts you and makes you smile. He makes you want to be a better you. Check him out!

The Tony Burgess Blog


Tarnished Soul

I cannot tell you enough how much I adore Tar. An absolute genuine sincere guy. He blogs about life’s ups and downs and he’s completely candid with his sexuality. I so wish we lived closer so we can get a massage, pedicure and shop. But for now, I’ll keep reading his blog and checking in to see what’s new – Please stop by and be prepared to meet a lifelong friend that is fabulous!

Tarnished Soul

Keep That

When I say “Keep That” I don’t mean hoarding or keeping that first bottle cap from the first date you had with what’s his face from 10th grade. I don’t mean keeping that memorabilia from the NKOTB tour.

I’m talking about those mistakes you’ve made, lessons you’ve learned, wrinkles you’ve acquired, the scars from playing football or falling off your bike.

Ladies, you know that wrinkle right above the two corners of your mouth that show up when you smile? Or that one breast that’s smaller than the other one? What about the mole on your cheek that you stare at every morning?

Fellas, what about the hair or fur on your back that looks like a sweater? Or that one toe that sticks out further than your big toe and looks strange? How about that one tooth that is sort of pointy compared to the rest of your teeth?

Are you possibly in a wheel chair or disabled? Do you have a lazy eye or a lisp? Who cares? Keep that. It’s what makes you YOU. Who cares what people think? I think if all of us had more confidence the world would be so much better. It’s time for each of us to be satisfied and certain of who we are.

We need to stop doubting our worth. We need to be secure about who we are. News Flash: No one is perfect people. Do you compare yourself to other people? Like for instance, the latest hype is the Kardashian’s for some reason. Yeah, they’re gorgeous, confident, beautiful, sexy and so much more. But, have you noticed, all of them have had work done to themselves to look that way. See where I’m going with this? Yep, they are insecure too. They weren’t happy with themselves so they got botox, lip injections, implants and the list goes on.

Underneath all of us there’s some type of insecurity even in the most beautiful people in the world. Why can’t we just accept ourselves for who we REALLY are? It’s time to let go of our imperfections and take what we want out of life.

What if we all thought of ourselves as epic, not basic? We’ve paid our dues in life so why not stop hesitating and go after what we want. I often think we hold ourselves back because of our faults and think we’re not good enough. I can’t be the only one that thinks this way can I? Yes, you know me as being confident, full of myself, sassy, speaking up for what I believe in, even arrogant at times. Deep down I have my insecurities too.

What are my insecurities? I didn’t go to college. I just graduated high school. At times I let that hold me back because I don’t necessarily feel that I’m smart around college educated people. But, that doesn’t make me any less of a person either. I’m street smart and I have amazing skills. I make very good money and have a successful career. I’m not toned up, thin, or even in shape. I’m curvy and like to eat. So, at times when I’m at the beach in my bathing suit I feel fluffy. But then I think to myself, I’m fluffy but cute and I’m happy. We have to reel ourselves back in at times and remind ourselves how fabulous we are don’t we? I hope  you do that with yourself. You do, don’t you? Try your best not to put yourself down. Bring yourself up with the positives when you start doubting yourself OK?

Whether we were put down growing up by our parents or bullied or if we talk down to ourselves in our minds we can overcome that bullshit. Learn to love yourself.

We all need to own our worth don’t we? We are worthy, all of us. We need to make people remember each of us whether they want to or not. Not everyone has to like us, not everyone has taste do they?

We’re all beautiful in our own fucked up ways if you ask me. There’s beauty in everything and everyone if you look around. No one is you, that’s your power and that’s  your beauty.

I have so many favorite songs but this one always speaks to me. It’s so powerful and I think if we would all listen to this from time to time it would help us to realize our worth. If you don’t have it on your spotify, google play list or whatever, add it, you need to hear it. Treasure yourself loves. If you don’t, how can anyone else treasure you?

Whatever you think is wrong with you, It’s OK. Keep That.


Showing Up

Happy Friday Loves!

I’ve missed all of you this week. I’ve been creeping around your blogs this week instead of blogging myself. In some cases I’ve not been able to comment or hit the like button. For some strange reason WP has been playing hard to get this week. :/

I saw this quote this morning on Pinterest and it grabbed my attention. I love my bruises and scars….Call me Scrappy if you will because God knows I’ve stumbled throughout my life but I’ve definitely showed up for the party. I don’t regret one single thing. The break ups, the struggles, heartbreak, and disappointments have shown me a thing or two. I’ve learned that I can bounce back from almost anything. There’s quite a few more I’ll go through too but I’ll be ready and if I’m not I’ll recover. I’ll come back even stronger.

Hoping all of you loves show up and know you’ve got life by the balls. It’s a fucking fantastic ride wouldn’t you say?


K E Garland

Kathy is one of my favorite motivators. I’m rather new to her blog but if you’re looking for some daily motivation and inspiration she is incredible. She’s much more polished than I am as she should be seeing as she’s a writer. I just wanted to share her “About” with you so that you can get to know her. Stop by and have a seat on her sofa and grab a cup of coffee and relax a little. Enjoy her quotes, positive posts, insight on daily life situations and most of all meeting a new amazing friend. She will encourage you and has a fantastic sense of humor. I feel like she’s right down the street and we’ve been friends for years. Too bad she doesn’t really live down the street or I’d have her over and we’d watch a SITC marathon and I’d possibly bake her a cake?! Yeah, I get domesticated from time to time, I know, Gasp!

You’re welcome loves – XOXO








How often throughout the years have we suffered through heartbreak, disappointments, mistakes, and “what just happened” moments?

The past has brought us right where we need to be. If you disagree then maybe you’re not at that place in life yet where you recognize your lessons and are seasoned with appreciation?

We need to move forward in life and understand that we’re more than ready for what we deserve. The future is full of surprises. Do you like surprises? I sure do!

The past is O.V.E.R. leave it there. You lived, learned and are a better version of yourself because of it.

Let’s explore the future and be fearless together loves….


Monday’s Go-Getters


Welcome to the Go-Getters squad……

Yeah, I’m back… Back with extra sass and swag…two of my favorite things in the whole wide world!

Let’s dive into our maneuver’s for tomorrow shall we?

First and foremost, there’s no competition out there, it’s just YOU. You’re the competition so don’t battle yourself in your mind. Cast away that negativity and proceed with the positivity.

None of that whining  bullshit about it being Monday. Monday’s are fresh starts remember? We don’t fear Monday’s. Not here on this blog we don’t. We’re powerful and we’re contributors. We are a valuable piece of the team.

Whether you’re a stay at home Mom, janitor, sales professional, teacher, cashier, lawyer, contractor, engineer, bus driver, you are part of something. You are important to people. Others count on you each day. Maybe one of your co-workers is out sick tomorrow, that means you have to step it up. Be there to pick up the slack to make things happen. Be accommodating to assure things go smoothly. Wouldn’t you want someone to do the same for you?

Take pride in your position. No matter what the position is, even if it’s just being a friend to someone, listening, show your compassion to others. Be the rock for them to lean on.

Be thankful for your job. Be confident in knowing that you have what it takes. Let’s show some enthusiasm for our jobs and for our beautiful lives. We have purpose and we’ll rise by lifting others. Be that person that is happy and content.

Because….Seriously, look around you, don’t you have enough? Think about every single thing you have and know that there are others out there that don’t have what we have. We are fortunate and blessed. Whether you’re scraping by and trying to manage and keep your head above water, you’re alive, breathing, reading this and have plenty to be thankful for. Always be grateful. Someone else would love to have your life.

So, get up, show up and love your bad ass self tomorrow. Your happiness shows, I guarantee. Maybe some of it will spread throughout the office with a domino effect.

Monday’s motivational music is brought to you by “The Godfather Of Soul” – James Brown – The man was a fucking genius!

Now, Get Up Offa That Thing…..









Monday Eve Essentials

It’s that time again isn’t it Loves? It’s Monday Eve and it’s approaching quickly. So, let’s get this party started shall we? Here’s the essentials you’ll need to keep in mind.

1.) Indispensable: Absolutely Necessary.

2.) Extraordinary: Exceptional in character.

3.) Significant: Remarkable and Important.

Whether you believe you have these qualities or not,  I’m betting someone sees these in you. Do you have a career? If you have a job your supervisor believes in you or you wouldn’t be in the position you’re in right now. I don’t care if you’re a shipping clerk, cashier, truck driver, contractor, engineer, babysitter, or whatever it is you’ve chosen to do for a living.  Whoever hired you saw something in you and is trusting that you will do an outstanding job for them.

If you’re cringing at the thought of tomorrow and another Monday I ask you to reevaluate your attitude. I know, I know, you’re reading this and thinking “Bitch, don’t tell me what do!” I assure you, it’s for your own good and I’m also talking to myself here.

Reason with yourself for a second will you? If you’re dreading tomorrow that causes worry and anxiety. Do you realize you’re in control of those feelings? What makes you happy? Can you think of something right this second that makes you happy in your life? Is it your spouse, child, pet, a new pair of shoes, a trip you have planned? Well, keep your eye on the fucking prize! Pull up your boot straps and dust yourself off and get your shit together. Why do you want to think negative thoughts about tomorrow? Seriously, choose happy. Choose thoughts of “I’m happy I have a job to go to.” Do you know how many people are without jobs right now?

Although you might bitch and moan about your job from time to time, there is someone out there that needs a job and would love to have your position. Count your blessings my loves and take note that your job pays your bills and also helps you to get your prize, am I right? You feel me?

Walk your valuable ass into work tomorrow knowing you bring something to the table. If you didn’t, you wouldn’t have that job now would you?

You are all of those three things listed at the top of this blog. Excellence is an attitude. So, think you’re excellent at what you do tomorrow morning and it will seep out of your pores and hopefully jump out and onto a lazy ass co-worker so they’ll wake up and contribute to the team. Be accessible to your employer. Never underestimate yourself. I want you to stop doubting your capabilities and show up for the game tomorrow.

I’ve said it before and I’ll keep on saying it, there’s only one you and only one me and we’re fucking extraordinary.

You and I are so much more.

Now tomorrow morning get up, get that cup of coffee, listen to a kick ass song like the one I’ve posted below. Start Me Up – Rolling Stones – I mean if you don’t get fired up listening to The Stones, get your head examined. Although it’s 34 years later, this song never gets old. Seriously, look at Mick’s moves! I was just ten years old when it came out but I can remember putting Christmas garland around my neck and strutting around the living room trying to imitate his moves. Hmm, maybe I’ll try that next week when I’m putting up the tree. Ha!

Cut the volume up my friends and get your mindset started up!






Wide Open


I absolutely love this quote!

I appreciate traditional, normal, and general types of characteristics. But, those characteristics of abnormal, unconventional, and rare are a magnet to my steel.

There’s something quite gripping about diversity, wouldn’t you say? I think people that are authentic and resistant are the most captivating ones.

Honestly, we’re all authentic. There’s no replica of you or me is there? We’re originals.

Sigh, resistant….unyielding…no brakes….That my loves is a beautiful thing. Keep going and keep writing and shining here. Don’t hold back on anything. The door is wide open. You’re not in prison here. Let it all out. There’s a freedom about writing your thoughts and sharing a piece of yourself. Let your authenticity flow.

Now be proud of your originality and wave it around magnificently loves.

Happy Wednesday – XOXO




Monday – Are you ready to play?

everyday bad ass

I had a “moment” on Friday after work. When I say “moment”, I mean, I allowed my emotions to get to me. As most of you know I blog about strength, positivity, inner strength, and strive to encourage others. Work was stressful that day and I felt defeated. I felt like I was being taken for granted and just downright pissed off.

I’m blogging about this as I want all of you to know that I have bad days too. I’m a real person just like all of you. I don’t want you to think that I’m always this super strong chic. We’re all human and have those shitty days don’t we?

When I came home from work and my husband asked me how my day was, I started elaborating and broke down in tears. My husband has seen me cry twice in the ten years we’ve known each other so it’s a big deal if I cry. His immediate reaction is to fix the problem and asked me if I wanted to quit my job. He would support me 100% if I did quit. That’s when I snapped back to reality. When I heard him say that, I thought to myself “No fucking way!” I am no quitter that’s for sure.

After I got the crying out of my system I felt much better. I felt relieved to get it off of my chest. It’s OK for us to have these moments where we do feel defeated. Of course it’s not a good feeling and it’s frustrating for us but this is life. Sometimes things don’t happen the way we want them to. We have to pick ourselves back up and begin again. We have to try again the next day and overcome these defeating moments. I allowed someone to make me doubt myself. I’m sharing this with you because I’ve read that if we blog about our life experiences including the ups and the downs that it brings our bloggers closer to us as we let them see us for who we really are. I assure you I am very real. That’s why I’m sharing this with you.

So, on that note loves, we’ll move on with my Monday Eve prep for myself and all of you. I appreciate each and everyone one of you. Now let’s get to the good stuff on how we’re going to attack Monday, shall we?

Let’s tell the board of negativity meeting in our brains to sit down and shut the fuck up. Our business is not to bring ourselves down or anyone else for that matter tomorrow. We’re tougher than we think aren’t we? So what, we have a moment of defeat every once in a while. That’s when we should brush the dirt off and get our asses back in the game again.

We all have a fire inside of us that needs to break free. It needs air. We’re about to set it free and burn it up.

What’s on the menu for tomorrow you ask?

A positive attitude to get shit done, a mentality that we’re in charge, and most of all we bring VALUE.

Let’s start the day with inhaling some confidence and exhaling any self doubt.

As we hit first base tomorrow we’re going to have fabulous energy and it’s going to be fucking contagious.

Face it, we’re all under pressure at work on Monday’s, I think we’d all agree. Focus on the things that are going right for us in our lives.

As we run to second base, we’re going to spread some positivity. Light the game up! What I mean by that is, If a co-worker starts bitching and moaning about how she or he hates working there…..help them by complimenting them about something they contribute or how well they do something for the company. Try to bring them up to your level. Cheer them on and build them back up. Reel them in. They’re part of the team too.

Stealing third base……You’re in charge of your attitude and your mindset ALWAYS. Every day we’re tested & doubted in our careers and life in general. Remember, hold your head up high and understand we’ve got this. We can handle anything. Put your positive pants on and swag yourself right into work and bring your bad ass to the forefront.

As we slide into home base let’s serve up enthusiasm, sass, encouragement, and fucking charm all damn day. Let’s own it people!

“Put me in Coach, I’m ready to play.”

Go ahead Monday, throw my team some curve balls because it’s obvious these batters can swing.