Approval Denied

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It’s taken me years to understand that I need no one’s approval to live my life. I’ve been guilty of worrying what others think of me. Well fuck that noise! Approval denied by anyone other than myself…..PERIOD.

I can remember my Mom telling me to keep quiet about living with my boyfriend years ago. She was embarrassed that I was “living in sin”. Well, at that years family reunion a couple of my nosey, snobby, hypocritical Aunts asked me in front of my boyfriend and my Mom “when are ya’ll going to get married and have kids?” In my mind I’m thinking what the fuck? I thought it was none of their business….I bluntly said “we’re not getting married, we’re shacking up and don’t like kids so we’re not having any.” My poor Mom looked like she wanted to crawl under the table and my Aunts dropped their mouths.

Point is it’s my life and I make my decisions whether they meet your standards or not. Maybe I don’t have standards? Ha! It’s about my happiness.

The same goes for everyone else. No judgment from this chic. Approval isn’t needed from anyone to live your life. I found that once I didn’t care what people thought of me I discovered happiness. Freedom to be yourself is pure blissfulness! Do what makes you happy!

XOXO

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5 Positives Of Today

My Darling Friend Jean blogged earlier today about finding 5 new positive things each day. She mentioned she’s thinking about starting a private journal for each day of these “5 Positives”. What an incredible idea don’t you think? As she mentioned, there are so many things in our lives that are positive that are not acknowledged.

I know I take for granted life’s beautiful moments and positives. I think each of us allow ourselves to get swept away in many insignificant conditions. Life is full of stress, work, problems, and irrelevant things like watching TV, shopping, napping, etc. I call that life’s fluff. That’s the filler in between the work, family, and the treasured moments.

I wanted to share my 5 for today just because…..

  1. Having lunch at a packed cafe today there was only one waitress working and probably 20 tables. She was beyond overwhelmed. Some patrons were so rude to her even though it was obvious she was doing the best she could under the circumstances. I noticed two older gents after finishing up their lunch began bussing tables to help out. As I watched the two I thought how beautiful it was that humanity still exists and there are so many kind people in this world. I handed her a substantial tip with a note complimenting the way she handled herself as we left. She gave me a hug. For that I’m thankful I was able to experience that special moment.
  2. I awoke this morning and had coffee on our deck and listened to the birds chirp and sing. It’s cloudy here and a bit cooler but the birds were out and entertaining me as the leaves whirled around with the breeze. The colors of yellow, red, brown and green were flashing brightly all around me.
  3. I heard from a very dear friend this morning and it was lovely to hear her sweet voice on the other end of the phone. We got to catch up and laugh and reminisce. I miss her so much as she lives out of state.
  4. Blessed to have all of you to read. I’ve been anticipating catching up with all of you this afternoon so let the stalking begin shortly.
  5. Finding Jean’s blog earlier today and reading about her 5 positives makes me appreciate the little things. So, thank you for sharing yours with me and all of us and coming up with this fantastic idea.

If you’re not following Jean, please check her out. I adore her posts. She’s in Ireland and has so many beautiful adventures and posts. You will be in for a great read and some outstanding photographs. https://socialbridge.wordpress.com/

 

Have a fabulous Saturday Loves!

 

 

Bad Girls Go Everywhere

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I just finished reading this sassy little book and absolutely loved it! Ladies, if you’re looking to be inspired, encouraged, and humored this will satisfy those cravings.

A few quotes….

“You know why God is a man? Because if God was a woman she would have made sperm taste like chocolate.” – Carrie Snow

“There is no point at which you can say, Well, I’m successful now. I might as well take a nap.” – Carrie Fisher

“Sometimes I have the most amazing moments of clarity. Razor sharp, crystal clear. It’s at these times I can see how fucking stupid I am.” – Tracey Emin

“It takes a good girl to be bad.” – Sophie Tucker

Authors: Kathryn Petras and Ross Petras

Enjoy Ladies – You’re Welcome!

Don’t Kill My Vibe

Morning Checklist….

Positive Panties On – Check!

Coffee Cup In Hand – Check!

Lipstick – Check!

Got Swag? – Check!

Feeling Positive – Abso-Fucking-Lutely!

Negativity? – We have a runner!

You’re not here to be average, you’re here to be awesome! Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react to it. It’s time to evict that negative resident out of your mind and have a new lease drawn up for a paying occupant named positivity. You hear that beeping? That’s the moving truck backing in….Negativity pack your shit and get the fuck out. Mind over matter all day, everyday.

Monday Under Construction

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I’m pretty sure everyone is unfavorable of Monday’s. You’ve known all along it was coming and here it is….Monday Eve prep.

When I say prep, I mean, I have to start with my head and pump myself up for the shenanigans that are forthcoming tomorrow. I think it’s ironic that tonight is the premier for the new season of The Walking Dead. No doubt tomorrow morning I’ll walk into the office and I’ll see “walkers” among me.

The “Walkers” that I speak of are the kind that are inattentive, lethargic and procrastinating. Sure, we’re all like this from time to time. The struggle is real on a Monday morning isn’t it?

Well, I believe if we have the mindset that we’re thankful for another day and these jobs that we’re going to, it will set the tone for all of us.

Whether we’re dreading going into work or not, if we start with our heads I think it will make a difference in the way we perceive our Monday.

Remember you are powerful in your thoughts. You control your happiness and your attitude. Honestly, I think it takes more energy to be negative than it does to be positive.

Be enthusiastic about a fresh start to the work week. Reinvent yourself possibly? Switch things up a bit. Instead of wearing the same lip gloss how about change it up and put on a bold shade? Fellas, try the blonde roast at Starbucks instead of the usual White Chocolate Mocha. Wear a different tie that has been hidden in the back of the closet for a special occasion. Treat yo self to something special in the morning to start the day off with a little offering to yourself. Or better yet, pay for the car behind you in the drive thru.

Random acts of kindness benefit you and the benefactor. It can change your entire day.

Make your Monday constructive and purposeful. Who wants a Mundane Monday anyways? Make it count.

Dig Your Way Out

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At times I find myself surrounded by a toxic wasteland of bodies. I’m thinking some of you do too.

We have to evaluate the circumstances. There are family members, co-workers, friends and so on that are a part of our circle.

Cancel the subscription to the unnecessary bullshit. It’s really a burial ground.

Do not allow these destructive people to pull you into circling the drain with them. It’s mind over matter all day, every day.

Take a knife and cut the fucking cord already. Make the change and flip the switch. Come at them with positive responses. Compliment them on something you find significant about them. There’s something good in everyone. Sometimes you have to use a magnifying glass but it’s there.

Resist the wreckage. Clear out the debri. Don’t allow these people to suck the happiness out of your soul. Put light into their dark tunnel.

Digging your way out will be gratifying. You might also be influential to these toxic people. Positivity spreads like a wildfire. Shouldn’t we all bring value to each other?

This game of life can be hard on us…. “A great spirit rises from the ashes.”

Walk & Talk Like A Boss

Look. You can have negative thoughts about yourself all you want but not on my watch.

One of my very favorite quotes EVA is…..

~ If your not being treated with love and respect, check your “Price Tag” perhaps you have marked yourself down. It’s “you” who tells people what your worth by what you accept. Get off the”Clearance Rack” and get behind the glass where they keep all the VALUABLES.. Bottom line is…VALUE yourself! ~

Seriously, think about it for a minute will ya? Isn’t this so true? Do me a favor and copy and paste the above quote into your phone or wherever and look at it as often as you need to. Remind yourself that you are dazzling and extremely valuable.

Confidence is so fucking attractive! Not only is it attractive to the opposite sex but it’s attractive in everyday life. It’s insanely contagious. Others want what you’re having. You feel me?

Think about what you have to offer. What are the positive things about yourself that you like? Write them down if you want and drill it into your mind and pump yourself up. You have something to offer.

Is it Intelligence? Your Smile? Heart Of Gold? What about your wit? Maybe you have fabulous hair? Do you have a beautiful singing voice? Are you funny? There is something in each of us that we bring to the table and it’s dying to get out and be seen or heard.

When I say Walk & Talk Like A Boss, are you thinking “What the fuck? Who does that? How do I even do that? This sounds so stupid.”

Nope, it’s really not hard to do and it’s soooo not stupid. Transform your mentality and celebrate yourself. As corny as that sounds…think about it. You set the tone for how people see you.

It took me ages to get my confidence and swagger. Yeah, I said it, I’ve got swagger bitches. I really wish I had it when I was younger. I realized I had swagger when I was around 32 years old. I had finally accepted that I was curvy aka big boned (what they call me in the south) aka thick aka chunky and the list goes on.

I love myself, even the fat rolls. If someone doesn’t like it or appreciate it then that’s too damn bad. This is me and I’m not going to starve myself to look like the celebrities, models, and so on. I’m beautiful just the way that I am. Plus….I love to eat! If someone says they hate to eat, something is very wrong with them. Run! You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life whatsoever. Ha! Ha! Ha!

Accept who you are and get on this swagger train because it’s a thrilling ride that you’ll thoroughly benefit from. Choo! Choo!

I honestly think if you accept who you are, what you bring to the table, it will transform your life. Put that new shade of red lipstick on or fellas that new cologne and when you look in the mirror tomorrow morning give yourself that “Sup” nod like “How you doin?” and swag yourself right out the front door to work.

Move out of the way world because you’re bringing it!