Hi Loves, let’s get on with it shall we? It’s another Monday morning and we all know……. come on, say with me….If Monday were a hairstyle it would be mullet, right?
My first book review EVER! To be quite honest I don’t read many books at all. I’m more into reading blogs more so than picking up a book. But this book has me some type of way! It’s hard for one book to keep my attention span occupied. That’s why you should be extremely shocked that I’m writing this review!
This book was written by a dear friend of mine, Dr. K E Garland. Before I ever read this book she intrigued me with her blog. She always posts about real moments, truth. There’s an honesty about her that captivates me with her writing. As I’ve said before, she touches your soul in this book and even in her blog.
Don’t let the name of the book scare you. When my book first arrived my husband got it out of the mail box and opened it up and his response was “Um, are you trying to tell me something?” I think I snorted with laughter when he asked me that. Let me tell you, this isn’t just for women, a lot of men can take something very meaningful from this book. My husband even read it and enjoyed it.
Dr. Garland took multiple stories of outstanding, charismatic tried-and-true women and poured it into this deep expressive book.
It takes you for a ride and has many windy curves, speed bumps, and tunnels. I don’t want to give too much away but this book is about finding strength, hopefulness, resilience, and capability.
She’s found a way to express the despair, trials, and loneliness in these women while finding peace within themselves. I can speak from experience after reading this book….I sure wish I would’ve had this book before I ever married. It would’ve taught me so much about myself and what I have to offer someone in a marriage or what I needed for myself.
Whether you’re happily married, single, divorced, engaged, dating, homosexual, etc. each of us could honestly learn something from these encouraging true stories. I could relate to more than a couple of them thinking back to my first marriage.
Reading Darlene’s story, tears stung my eyes as I read the words “I was pure. I was dutiful. I had submitted. What did I have to show for it? Divorce papers and ten lost years of my life.” I know, I know, what happened, what went wrong? You’ll have to read the book 🙂
Crystal’s story hit home for me….Her Mom’s words “You can’t give up on a human being; that’s abandonment. And nobody deserves to be abandoned.” A few pages later, my ears felt like they were on fire and smoking as I read Crystal’s frustration….“And for the first time in my life, I thought I was capable of killing a man. I envisioned taking the plastic Kroger bag that rested on the floor and holding it over his face, watching as he kicked and screamed, gasping for his last breath.” I know you’re wondering what could have been so bad for her to want to kill him but you’ll have to read the book to find out. 🙂
This book isn’t all doom and gloom. Dr. Garland is revealing to us that we often forget who we are in this busy crazy life we live in. She’s showing us through these stories that we must love ourselves first before committing ourselves to someone else. We have to find ourselves and our passion to be able to share that with that special person. Sounds easy doesn’t it? Read the book. I promise you, you will walk away a better person. After reading the book I felt elated. It made me realize that I am right where I want to be. I’m grateful for my marriage and I did it right this time. If the book doesn’t make you feel that way, it might just wake you up or give you an Aha moment. Either way, it’s a lasting memorable book that will stay with you. If you would like to get to know her better please stop by her blog Dr. K E Garland or you can purchase this book on Amazon paperback or kindle. Do check it out as it will be very rewarding.
As for my dear friend Dr. K E Garland….your words are eye opening, heartfelt, and entrancing. Fantastic read! Well done my friend, very well done. XO
Hey Loves! Hoping each of you had a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday. We spent ours in the french quarter of New Orleans. We had a blast to say the least. I wanted to share with you some of the photo’s I took with my phone. Please forgive the sloppiness as I’m soooo NOT a photographer.
Random homes in the french quarter…
Statue Of Andrew Jackson at Jackson Square…
The Saint Louis Cathedral at Jackson Square…
Stained Glass inside Saint Louis Cathedral….
Inside Saint Louis Cathedral…
The Lafayette Cemetery No. 1…
Had to sneak this one in. My handsome boy Tux posing in Greenwood Cemetery…
The Longue Vue House And Gardens…
A cat named Juniper taking a nap in this adorable little book store called Beckham’s Bookshop…
The best breakfast EVER at New Orleans Cake Cafe & Bakery…
If you ever get the opportunity to visit New Orleans please do so. I fell in love with the smiling faces, friendliness, shops, history, food, music, drinks, etc. Everything about NOLA is incredible if you ask me. I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. We stayed at the French Market Inn and it was amazing. The staff were all so welcoming and made us feel very cozy. It was as if we were staying at a friends place. We stayed three nights and it was less than $400 – very reasonable. I didn’t get any great shots of it but here are a couple of random ones…
It was actually warm enough for me to wear shorts and put my toes in the water. I enjoyed reading the rest of “The Unhappy Wife” by K E Garland. I consider her a friend of mine. This book touches your soul. If you’ve not read it or heard about it, I’ll soon be writing my first book review on it. I’ve never written a book review so I hope I don’t embarrass her 🙂
That wraps up my mini vacation. Hoping all of you are having a wonderful weekend!
Tomorrow we’ll be celebrating Thanksgiving. Most people in the US over eat, watch football, lay around hanging out with loved ones.We also are very sweet and kind to our families for one day. We’re extremely thankful for everything. I wonder…do my UK loves watch Harry Potter or Benny Hill and eat crumpets and have tea? You know I’m just kidding right? Ha! I do want to wish all of you a very Happy Thanksgiving!
Humping must go on, even on the day before Thanksgiving right?
Well Hello Loves, it’s Monday and for most of us that live in the US it’s a short work week. I’m thankful for that and Thanksgiving is my favorite time of year. I love the foods, the weather, and how sweet everyone is because they’re remembering what all they’re thankful for. So, moving right along to our Monday….because like I always say, if Monday were a hairstyle it would totally be a mullet. Plus, I’m so not a morning person…Who’s with me?
This week we begin the 80’s era of music & cars. I remember more from the 80’s than I do from just last week. So many fun times in the 80’s. I could wear my hair naturally without doing a damn thing to it because big hair was in. It was the day and age of Aqua net, jelly shoes, bright neon colors, head bands, big belts, and epic music.
1981 – The Cars – Shake It Up – I am a big Cars fan. I loved them so much it’s part of the reason I chose my vanity plate on my mustang. SHKITUP Such a fabulous song!
1981 Red Cadillac Eldorado Convertible – What a classic right? Beautiful car.
1982 – Michael Jackson – Beat It – RIP MJ – You had so many hits and there wasn’t one that I didn’t like. But, this one, this is my FAVORITE. Loved the video, the song, the dancing, every single thing about it.
1982 Lamborghini Countach 5000S – There’s something about a Lambo that I love. Maybe the clean curvy lines or just how fast it will go.
1983 Duran Duran – The Reflex – This one brings back fun memories of my friends and I dancing around in our PJ’s with tennis rackets, maracas, and bed posts using them as microphones or for air guitar. We LOVED Duran Duran. Bow down to their hair too will ya? They had fabulous hair, you have to admit.
1984 – Kenny Loggins – Footloose – I had numerous slumber parties and we would watch this movie over and over again. We were so crazy about Kevin Bacon. 🙂
1984 Chevy Monte Carlo SS – One of my dearest friends had one of these and we loved it. I can remember wearing bikinis and washing it every Saturday that summer. This was a bad ass car.
1987 Def Leppard – Pour Some Sugar On Me – No matter where you’re at…when this song comes on and Rick Allen (Drummer) rolls out the beat you feel an electric shock run through your veins….
1987 Ford Mustang Notchback – One of my best friends had one of these with T-Tops and we would cruise for hours blaring Def Leppard and racing guys in this hot fast ride.
1988 Billy Ocean – Get Outta My Dreams, Get Into My Car – This song makes me want to get up and do my white girl dance….you know the one that Carlton always did on Fresh Prince Of Belair? I can’t get enough of Billy Ocean. I recently (a month or so ago) saw him on The Tonight Show with The Roots and he sounded amazing, hasn’t changed much at all. He just has long dreads now but same ole’ Billy – he’s simply incredible!
1988 VW Rabbit Cabriolet – All of the cool cheerleaders drove these in high school. I wanted one so bad. But honestly, this car didn’t fit my personality. I wasn’t a cheerleader, I actually tried out and wasn’t good enough…I was more of the type of girl that needed a big motor in my car so I could race boys. But, this was a cute little ride. I always loved them.
This wraps up this segment. Stay tuned for my Monday post. Not sure if I’ll have time to do a Mullet Monday. I might need to recycle one of my older posts for our Monday boost. Have a great Sunday loves!
It’s been a while since I’ve shared any of these. But here goes…
Bestie Rhonnie: You watching Good Behavior?
Me: Yeah, it’s pretty good. Hubz says this girl reminds him of me with her trust & anger issues.
Bestie Rhonnie: No way. You’re the sweetest. I can’t see it.
Me: Um, yesterday I told a guy at work if he kept talking dirty to me that I would rip his throat out of his neck and ship it to his Mama and to shut the fuck up.
Bestie Rhonnie: Did he shut the fuck up?
Me: Haven’t seen him since, so I guess so.
Do you ever feel overwhelmed….so fucking stressed out that you can’t even think straight? You call people by the wrong name…you mispronounce things and make errors over and over again? That’s me right now. I’m constantly asking myself internally, are you having a fucking stroke or something? No, nothing majorly is wrong but anytime something changes in my life it throws me off and everything starts spinning out of control in my comfort zone.
A couple of months ago I got promoted to a supervisor position. Now I’ve hired my first new employee and training him has been really difficult for me. By training him it’s putting me behind with customer orders and we’re moving so slow while the orders keep coming in. We have many different duties we need to focus on but we’re moving so slowly that everything is just piling up. It’s giving me a lot of anxiety. Anytime I’m not in control and things aren’t going my way I freak the fuck out.
So today’s song is Paradise by Coldplay. I think you’ll like the song and the video. Every time I watch the video I get a little teary eyed at the end of it. Here’s the thing, I know there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. I know it won’t be like this in weeks to come. I have to be patient with my new hire and get him trained and it will all be worth it. *** Telling myself to simmer the fuck down and look towards the end result is a job in itself ***