Everyone Has A Story

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We often prejudge don’t we? We stereo type and immediately jump to conclusions. I hate that about myself. I’m a work in progress. I catch myself doing it and instantly feel guilty.

Everyone does have a story. We have sequels….some are slow moving and don’t catch our attention. But the next one is keeping us on the edge or makes our minds work overtime trying to understand the twists. A few sequels are shameful and we can’t believe what the character just did. How could they?

Sometimes people go through storms, hurricanes, torrential downpours and accidents happen. There’s wreckage and a lot of clean up afterwards. Some people don’t have the Disaster Relief Agencies to come to their rescue.

I think it’s safe to say we’ve all had some shit storms in life right? Did you have someone there for you to just listen?

When my friends and family tell me their problems I right away start analyzing ways to help them out of their situation. Maybe they don’t need me to fix it for them or to come up with ideas on how to address the problem. Can’t I just shut up and listen and allow them to vent? Of course I can.

I need to heed to my own advice. I write this blog mostly talking to myself. If you read this and get something from it that’s fantastic. But I use this blog as a journal/diary too because I do go back and read my stuff from time to time. It helps me to remind myself of the right things to do and I can learn from my writing this way.

In this case….I need to listen always before judging. I have no clue of the dues that someone has paid nor have I seen their receipts. I need to remember they have stories just like me.

So let’s fill our lives with our stories…whether they’re scary, sad, adventurous, thrilling, loving, or happy…. let’s make it the craziest finale ever.

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It’s Necessary

We get so consumed with work, school, problems, others needing us that we dismiss the fact that we need time to ourselves. We need to make that doctor’s appointment for ourselves, hair appointment or lunch with a friend and stop canceling.

I have a selfish side. For instance this week it seemed like I had to bail several people at work out of their predicaments. It’s always me that has to fix their mistakes. That’s not in my job responsibilities. I feel taken for granted. But I’m also a team player. I wear a headset for nine hours a day and the phone calls are non stop. I share an office with five other people. It’s always loud and insanely fast moving.

I come home and fix dinner. Clean up after the 17 year old Mr. Cheese. He’s my mixed pup and has some health issues which cause him to urinate quite a bit in my home. There’s laundry….hubby wants to tell me all about his day and for me to watch TV with him. It’s bed time and every couple of hours Mr. Cheese walks all over my body to wake me up out of my slumber to take him outside for his business meeting. Or he doesn’t wake me and I find puddles around the bed to clean up before I get ready for work.

I feel as if everyone wants a piece of me 24/7. There is no quietness in my life. It would be nice to hear nothing….silence. I do sometimes in my car. Today I’m taking time for myself at Starbucks. It’s far from quiet but no one is asking me for anything. No one knows me here. I’m alone and taking in every second of this me time. I’m able to blog out my feelings and vent. A huge sigh of relief…..enjoying my Venti White Mocha. After I’m done here I have a much needed hair appointment. It’s been three months since my last haircut and highlights. I’m not complaining….I’m extremely grateful for this life I live.

I’m just advising you to take some time for yourself to sit back and take things in. If I do things like this more often I’ll be less stressed out and not so overwhelmed. Those of you with children, jobs, ahem… multiple jobs….I bow down to you. I don’t see how you do it all. I honestly don’t. Give yourself a hug for me because you deserve it. Remember to take care of you too loves. Because you’re taking care of everyone else and they need you to be happy too.

You deserve ME time.

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I Got You

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I’m not a holy roller nor a bible thumper. I do believe in God. I don’t fear many things but I am a God fearing woman. Of course I sin. But I do believe. I don’t judge people if they don’t believe in God or don’t think like me. I respect everyone’s beliefs and differences. Where am I going with this you’re asking?

I’ve blogged about my friend Rhonnie before. She is absolutely precious to me. We’ve never met in person or even spoken on the phone. We met on Instagram and formed a bond via e-mails and texts. We text every single day. We have the same sense of humor and tons of sarcasm. It feels like we grew up together and are Sisters.

Rhonnie suffers from chronic migraines. Have any of you ever had one? If not, you’ve probably had a mild headache. Well take that mild headache and crank it up to the max. A mild headaches is probably a level of 2 or 3. A migraine, it’s more like a 25 + throwing up, feeling hot or cold, constant throbbing and dizziness. There are tons of horrible symptoms. I cannot imagine having them daily. I’ve had one a few times and it felt like I was dying.

Rhonnie has been there for me in more ways than I can count. How you ask if we’ve never met? She gets me. She understands what I’m going through with my 17 year old dog as his kidneys and liver are failing. She prays for me daily and tells me she’s there for me. She knows if I’m keeping something from her or if I have something brewing in my mind. How strange right? She gives me advice, good advice.

Today was the first time she’s ever asked me for anything. Her text read “Lennon I need you to do me a favor. Starting tomorrow and everyday til the 25th will you please pray I don’t get sick with a headache? My mom and her boyfriend will be here and I really want to be with them. I know it’s a lot to remember to do it each day but I would appreciate it.”

My thoughts? I teared up. The one thing she asks of me is prayer. I pray for her every single night before I go to sleep. But this was huge for me. She’s had my back for quite some time. I’ve let my guard down with her. I’ve let her in. I’m picky on who comes in, ya feel me? I answered her as I was sitting at a red light stuck in traffic….”I’m cutting my music off in the car and I’ll be praying the entire ride home. I’ve got you!”

Cutting music off in my car while driving is rarely a factor. It’s like eating a meal without anything to drink. As I began praying out loud…I got emotional. It was as if God was sending me a sign that he was listening and telling me I’ve got this….

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Zoom in if you will. Yep this car in front of me with this decal really got to me. I got chills up my spine…tears forming in my eyes as I pray for God to get Rhonnie through this month without being sick so she can enjoy time with her family. I explained how she’s brought me closer to him. God. How she’s so selfless and is always putting others ahead of herself and how she takes the pain over and over again and never complains. She’s grateful for everything in her life and never asks why me?

She encourages me and inspires me regularly. Was it by chance we met on IG? Was it fate? Nope, I think God knew we needed each other. Even when I’ve had a bad day or have some type of issue my hubby says “Did you text Rhonnie? What’s her take on it?” She’s my Bestie. As strange as that sounds I’m connected to her like family.

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Thank you Rhonnie for being there for me. I’m honored to return the favor. Not only have I got you but God has your back too.

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