Monday’s Stance

Have you ever heard the phrase “you wear your emotions on your sleeve”? I’ve noticed at my office a lot of the women seem to be wearing emotions like the latest Michael Kors handbags.

Just recently a female co-worker was hurt that I didn’t make eye contact with her when she was speaking to me. In my defense I was concentrating on schematics and working on a quote while she was telling me about her menstrual cycle and personal drama. I was listening and nodding politely while looking up part numbers. Later that day I read her Facebook rant about how people should be considerate and look at someone when they’re having a conversation. Maybe she wasn’t referring to me you’re thinking? Um, yeah, she was. The next day I mentioned how I saw her facebook status and how if she was referring to me I wanted to apologize. Instead of her saying “It’s alright, I knew you were busy and that status wasn’t about you.” She proceeded to get an attitude about how rude she thought I was and how it hurt her feelings and then as though that wasn’t bad enough, she started crying while giving me a piece of her mind. Sigh… I quickly hugged her and told her my intentions were not to hurt her and that sometimes I’m in a zone which is called work. She didn’t like that answer either.

I’m not one to be emotional at work but I work with six other women that are. So far I’ve made three out of six cry. Not on purpose of course. It’s difficult for me as I don’t understand it. I’m not an emotional person unless it has to do with veterans, death, children or puppies. It takes a lot for me to cry or to get emotional. For the most part I keep my emotions in check. I do pop off wise cracks and am sarcastic at times but for some reason I get away with that at work.

No matter the situation, never let your emotions fuck with your intelligence. Emotions in the office or with your career make you helpless and weak. Hold your shit together as you’re better than that bullshit. You came to work to succeed and to get paid. You’re not there to get wrapped up in drama or to let something bring you down. Keep your chin up and move forward.

Smell that? That’s fresh ambition brewing….

We all have ambition inside of us that’s eager to be released so that we can achieve our goals. Sure, sometimes it’s taking a nap or on hiatus but for the most part it’s there.

Tomorrow we need to wake up determined to rise. Rise above the negativity and shit from other co-workers. You know you bring something to the table each and every day. Pull up a chair and serve up that ambition with a side of success.

Let’s bury the haters with our swag and make Monday our bitch. It’s full throttle all day long. From our standpoint everything is conceivable. You dominate your mindset and you are the one that is in control of your perspective.

Kick the excess waste of negativity to the curb. Firm up your stance and stay on course with a hustler’s mentality.

My motto for tomorrow is “All I Do Is Win” – one of my favorite rap songs. Remember, we’re winners, now let’s show up for the game tomorrow.


Thanksgiving Adventures In Asheville

Today’s my 44th birthday…….I’m still killin’ it <<< in my dreams >>> Ha! As usual, I crack myself up.

So, the hubz wanted to do something special for my birthday which was a quick holiday break to Asheville, NC.

We started out with a romantic little italian dinner at Vinnie’s. Vinnie’s has a friendly, happy, eclectic staff. You could just tell they wanted to be there and they wanted to serve you. How often does that happen, like NEVER. I had the chicken marsala which was absolutely incredible.


The next morning we ventured out to the River Arts District. As you can see in the shots below the graffiti was a kaleidoscopic variety of vibrant colors and images….






Afterwards we had Thanksgiving lunch at The Grove Park Inn which was quite stately and fancy compared to our traditional Thanksgiving dinners. Check out the pictures below…



Everything was exquisite! It was very special and that’s what my hubby’s goal was.

This morning before heading back home we stopped at a local doughnut haunt “Vortex”. They were fucking outstanding! As you can tell, our holiday trip was all about eating…..


So, that’s what I’ve been up to for the past few days. Now I’m home and about to get this party started “up in here” “up in here” with putting the tree up. Hoping all of you had a very Happy Thanksgiving!


Something To Be Thankful For

Have you ever struggled? Had hard times? Been broke? Hit rock bottom?

That sounded like an infomercial didn’t it? No worries Loves, I’m not selling anything.

Since it’s Thanksgiving and we’re all thinking about what we’re thankful for…. I was thinking about why I’m so thankful. I’m thankful for the smallest and most trivial things because I’ve had nothing before. I’ve struggled and wondered how I was going to make it. I don’t mean just financially but mentally as well. I’ve not always been a strong, happy, sassy type of chic.

I’ve been broken down, weakened, and rock bottom before. That’s why I am so thankful each and every day. Life has so many curves, bumps, and snags along the way. It’s the hard times that we’ve been through that make us so grateful for where we are.

Think about the lowest time in your life and then look at where you’re at now….be thankful always. No matter if you’re having a shitty day or something isn’t going your way there is something to be grateful for.

By the way I’m Super Thankful for all of you. Wishing you and yours a very Happy Thanksgiving!


Elbow Falls in winter’s clothing

Incredibly Stunning!

Christopher Martin Photography

Winter sunrise at Elbow Falls - © Christopher Martin-4076

We have had a few stormy blasts throughout November and the snow seems to be intent on sticking around right now.  With the beauty of the winter landscape running through my head, I went up to Elbow Falls in Kananaskis early one morning to catch the sunrise.

WINTER DAWN AT ELBOW FALLS - © Christopher Martin-4088

It turned out to be a beautiful dawn matched only by the tranquility I was able to enjoy sharing the waterfall with the resident Dippers (small birds not swimmers!) and the rushing water.

WINTER DAWN AT ELBOW FALLS - © Christopher Martin-4106

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Dig Your Way Out

Since I’ll be out of town for the holidays I’ll be reblogging some of my older stuff….And of course some of your stuff too. Happy Thanksgiving Loves!

Fabulous With Glitches


At times I find myself surrounded by a toxic wasteland of bodies. I’m thinking some of you do too.

We have to evaluate the circumstances. There are family members, co-workers, friends and so on that are a part of our circle.

Cancel the subscription to the unnecessary bullshit. It’s really a burial ground.

Do not allow these destructive people to pull you into circling the drain with them. It’s mind over matter all day, every day.

Take a knife and cut the fucking cord already. Make the change and flip the switch. Come at them with positive responses. Compliment them on something you find significant about them. There’s something good in everyone. Sometimes you have to use a magnifying glass but it’s there.

Resist the wreckage. Clear out the debri. Don’t allow these people to suck the happiness out of your soul. Put light into their dark tunnel.

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Can we celebrate weirdos? They’re eccentric, peculiar and bizarre, wouldn’t you agree? Weirdos are my tribe, my gang, my people.

I might look normal with blonde hair and blue eyes but deep down I’m a weirdo. I’ve finally realized it and embraced it.

Individuality is monumental. We don’t have to be copycats. Each of us are matchless and extraordinary. We’re different so why not grasp the idea that you’re exceptional?

I’ll give you a few of  my quirks….

I’m 43 and I listen to Frank Sinatra and Rap music. What a combination right? I love hanging out in graveyards. I read the headstones and calculate how old they were when they passed away and try to imagine what their lives were like. Creepy right? I sleep in such a tense way that my hubby says I look like someone is performing an exorcism on me. I love bags. Not Coach, Marc Jacobs or Michael Kors bags but those cloth bags you take to the grocery store. I can’t get enough of those bags. I eat ketchup on cabbage, spinach, collards, and turnips. That’s just a few of my weird quirks.

Let the weirdness commence…..why be a standard edition of yourself? Let’s rock these incredible strange quirks we have with confidence. You know there’s something weird about yourself, don’t even try to hide it. As Lady GaGa sings “You were born this way.”

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He’s probably not going to be thrilled that I’m reblogging this post out of all of his posts but it’s my favorite so far…..Bitter Ben is letting us in a little to find out what makes him tick. I’m a fan. A big fan. He makes me laugh when I can have the shittiest day. And Loves, you’re welcome!

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